Despite the importance/size/relevance of each one, these choices are all driven by the same desire… control. Our goal with every decision is to maximize the likelihood of an outcome we desire.

Today, most people wonder… How can I feel more happiness (see the above questions)?

Start comparing yourself… to yourself.

In both circumstances, I focus on my behavior because whether I feel like it or not, I’ve still got to deliver.

We tend to focus most of our energy on the things going wrong despite the fact that the good FAR outweighs the bad.

We tend to focus most of our energy on the things going wrong despite the fact that the good FAR outweighs the bad.

Here’s an idea to get started: Sometime in the coming weeks, clear your calendar in the afternoon and do… nothing.

The Perfection Trap author Thomas Curran makes a compelling point that the root of all this effort is the fear of failure, rejection and judgement. I believe it all comes down to fear. 

Imperfection is the characteristic we all share but are too afraid to admit or discuss.    

This isn’t a black/white conversation, there’s tons of grey.