Defeat Self-Defeat with Dr. Mark Goulston

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Why isn’t achievement ever enough? Join CJ McClanahan as Dr. Mark Goulston, former FBI hostage negotiator and UCLA professor, discusses how a simple change in perspective will alter how you see your life and your success. 

What We Discuss in this Episode:

  • One of our society’s biggest challenges is our lack of emotional intimacy. We learn to replace emotional intimacy with achievement, and we stay there until we realize it’s empty.
  • We live with four emotions: excitement, boredom, fear, and anger.
  • Getting yourself off the achievement treadmill can seem impossible. Try this simple exercise: Rate your calendar on a scale of “I’m really looking forward to this” and “I’m really dreading this.” Then ask yourself, what do the events I’m looking forward to have in common, and vice versa?
  • When you focus on achievement, you’re running on adrenaline, and that is a young person’s game.
  • When you ask someone how they’re doing and they say, “great,” they’re usually good. If they say they’re doing fine, they’re usually not.

Mentioned in the Podcast:

Dr. Mark Goulston

Originally a UCLA professor of psychiatry for over 25 years, and a former FBI and police hostage negotiation trainer, Dr. Mark Goulston’s expertise has been forged and proven in the crucible of real-life, high stakes situations.

An influencer who helps influencers become more influential, his unique background has made him an indispensable and sought-after resource and change facilitator to Fortune 500 leaders, entrepreneurs and educators across the nation. He lives with his wife in Los Angeles, California.

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